My Story So Far

Nicole du Toit - about - sex and relationship coach

Hi, I’m Nicole

An AASECT accredited Sex Educator & Relationship Coach in Cape Town, South Africa.

Ever wondered how some people build deeply connected relationships, radiate sexual confidence, and still stay true to their values? That’s the transformation I help guide.

I support individuals and couples – especially those from conservative or faith-based backgrounds – in reclaiming intimacy, embracing pleasure, and deepening emotional and physical connection.

Coaching is a safe, respectful space to explore your most vulnerable and intimate questions. Whether you’re struggling with sexual dysfunction, navigating mismatched desire in your relationship, or carrying shame from cultural or religious conditioning, or just wonder if you are “normal”, I’m here to walk that journey with you.

Together, we’ll uncover what’s blocking your path to pleasure and connection. From building better communication to exploring desire and intimacy, this is about learning to love every part of yourself, and welcoming a more fulfilling sex life rooted in authenticity and joy.

Nicole Sex & Relationship Coach

WHAT BROUGHT ME HERE

My Journey & Mission

My mission is to create a warm, judgement-free space where you can explore your sexual concerns, values, questions, and desires with confidence and care. Whether you’re navigating intimacy challenges, spiritual conflicts, or simply seeking deeper connection, I walk beside you – offering gentle guidance, evidence-based support, and wholehearted encouragement every step of the way.

After earning a post-graduate degree in Theology and working within Christian Ministry, I witnessed a silent epidemic: countless couples – especially within faith-based communities – were suffering in their intimate lives, too afraid or ashamed to ask for help. At the same time, I was wrestling with my own struggles: pelvic pain, disconnection, and a longing for true sexual pleasure.

Determined to find answers, I spent a small fortune on doctors and specialists, firmly believing that this could not be all that there was! Thankfully I was right! Eventually I pursued formal training in sexology through accredited institutions in the USA, becoming certified by AASECT (The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists). What I discovered was life-changing, and desperately needed by so many in South Africa, yet rarely spoken about.

That’s what led me to open my practice: a safe, welcoming space for individuals and couples across South Africa and beyond to explore sexuality and relationships without shame. I remain a lifelong learner, continually updating my knowledge through ongoing training, peer collaboration and supervision sessions, and the latest research.

I believe sexuality is not only a natural part of being human – it’s a sacred one. Through a holistic, heart-centered and science based approach to sexual wellness, I help clients reconnect with their bodies, release shame, and experience the fullness of intimacy in alignment with their values and their own personal journey. There is no one right way to experience pleasure, but there is a right way for you, and together we will find it. 

If you’re seeking freedom, healing, and joy in your relationship with your body, your partner, or your faith—you’ve come to the right place. 

WHOLENESS STARTS WITH HONEST CONVERSATION

Services Offered

As an accredited sex educator and relationship coach, I offer a range of services to help you improve your sexual and emotional well-being.

Couples Coaching

Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship

1:1 Coaching

Discover Personal Fulfillment and Confidence

Bachelorette Parties

Celebrate New Beginnings with Confidence

Workshops

Expand Your Understanding in a Collaborative Setting

School Workshops

Building a Foundation for Healthy Futures

Speaker at Churches

Integrating Faith and Sexual Wellness

Custom Workshops

Tailored Learning Experiences for Unique Needs

Group Coaching

Grow Together in a Supportive Community