If you’re reading this, it’s likely because you or someone you know is living with a spinal cord injury. And while there are many challenges that come with this condition, one of the most frustrating can be the difficulty in experiencing orgasm.
But it doesn’t have to be this way! There are a number of different ways to reach climax, some of which we’ll explore in this blog post. So whether you’re looking for solo pleasure or ways to spice up your sex life, or you just want to know how someone who may not be able to experience physical arousal can enjoy sex, read on to learn how people with spinal cord injuries can still enjoy amazing orgasms.
The Importance of Achieving Orgasms.
The Health Benefits of Orgasms
The health benefits of orgasms are well-documented. Orgasms can reduce stress, improve sleep, boost immunity, and increase heart health. They can also increase sexual satisfaction and intimacy in a relationship.
The Pleasure Benefits of Orgasms
In addition to the health benefits, orgasms are simply pleasurable. They can provide a much-needed release after a long day or week. They can help you relax and feel more connected to your body. And they can be a great way to bond with a partner.
The Different Ways to Achieve Orgasms.
As a person with a spinal cord injury, there are still plenty of ways to have an orgasm! Depending on your level of sensation and mobility, you may need to experiment with different techniques and kinds of stimulation, to find what works best for you. We will focus on genital stimulation of various types, but that is by no means the limit. Many people with spinal cord injuries find that different body parts become particularly erogenous, including their ears, neck, chest and thighs to name a few, even hair stroking can result in orgasms for some!
External stimulation
This can be done with your hands, a vibrator, or other objects such as pillows, blankets, or even water from the shower. Experiment with different strokes and speeds to find what feels best. The most common areas for external stimulation are:
- Clitoral stimulation: The clitoris is located at the top of the vulva between the inner labia. It is described as feeling like a small raised area or bump. The part of the clitoris that is stimulated externally is the glans of the clitoris, with the majority of the organ extending inward and down around the vulva and vaginal opening.
- Vulva stimulation: The vulva includes all of the external genitalia including the clitoris, inner and outer labia, and vaginal opening.
- Perineal stimulation: The perineum is located between the anus and vagina/penis. It is often described as feeling like a small slightly raised area of soft skin. In cis-males external stimulation of the perineum can also stimulate the internal prostate (P-spot).
Internal stimulation:
This can be done with a dildo, vibrator, or your own fingers. If using fingers, make sure they are well-lubricated before inserting them into the vagina or anus. Start with gentle pressure and strokes, then increase the intensity as desired. It may help to stimulate the clitoris at the same time for added pleasure. The most common areas of internal stimulation are:
- G-spot stimulation: The much talked about G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal opening. It is often described as feeling like a small raised area or bump. To stimulate the G-spot, insert one or two fingers into the vagina and curl them back towards the belly button while applying firm pressure (similar to “come here” motion). You may also want to try a toy specifically designed for G-spot stimulation.
- A-spot stimulation: The A-spot is located deep inside the vagina on the front wall near the cervix. It is often described as feeling like a small raised area or bump. To stimulate the A-spot, you or your partner can insert a finger or a sex toy into your vagina and press firmly against the front wall. You may want to try a toy specifically designed for A-spot stimulation.
- P-spot stimulation: The P-spot is located in the male prostate, which can be accessed through the anus or externally by pressing down on the perineum. It is described as feeling like a walnut / golf ball sized lump or bump. To stimulate the prostate, you or your partner can insert a finger or a sex toy into the anus and press firmly against the front wall. Experiment with different amounts of pressure and different strokes until you find something that feels good!
Clitoral Stimulation.
Aside from using hands and toys as foreplay only. there are many different positions that can be used that allow you stimulate the clitoris too. Some of these positions may require the use of a mirror so that you can see what you are doing.
The first position is the doggy style position. In this position, you will need to place a pillow or support under your stomach or hips so that your clitoris is accessible. You can then use your fingers or a vibrator to stimulate your clitoris while your partner penetrates you.
Another position that can be used is the missionary position. In this position, you will need to place a pillow or support under your hips so that your clitoris is accessible. You can then use your fingers or a vibrator to stimulate your clitoris.
Depending on your level of spinal cord injury, you may find different positions more comfortable and accessible than others.
Vulva Stimulation.
The vulva is the external sexual organ of female mammals. It consists of the labia minora, the labia majora, the clitoris, and the vaginal opening. The vulva is a sensitive area that can be stimulated in different ways to produce pleasurable sensations.
There are various ways to stimulate the vulva. These include using one’s fingers, using sex toys, or using oral sex techniques. Fingering is a common way to stimulate the vulva. This involves using the fingers to rub or massage the clitoris, labia, or vaginal opening. Sex toys can also be used to stimulate the vulva. These include vibrators, dildos, and strap-ons. Oral sex techniques can be used to stimulate the clitoris or vagina. This involves using the tongue or lips to lick, suck, or kiss these areas.
Different people will enjoy different types of stimulation. It is important to experiment and find out what feels good for you.
Perineum and P-Spot Stimulation.
The prostate, also known as the P-spot, is a small gland located just below the bladder in males. This gland produces some of the fluid that makes up semen. The prostate can be stimulated via the perineum (the area between the anus and scrotum) or directly through the anus. When stimulated, some men report feeling intense pleasure, similar to an orgasm.
To stimulate the prostate externally, you will need to apply pressure to the perineum. This can be done with your fingers, a sex toy, or even something as simple as a rolled-up washcloth. Remember to start slow and increase pressure gradually.
If you want to stimulate your prostate internally, you or your partner will need to insert a finger or sex toy into your anus and press against the front wall of your rectum. Again, experiment with different amounts of pressure until you find what feels good. It will help to use lube for this activity. Start with your finger pointing up towards the belly button and then curl it back towards the spine when you reach the front wall of your rectum. You should feel a small bump on this wall; this is the prostate gland!
G-Spot Stimulation
The G-Spot is a small, spongy area located on the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches inside the vaginal opening. It is usually identified by its slightly rougher texture than the surrounding tissue. When aroused, the G-Spot swells and becomes more pronounced.
To stimulate the G-spot, you or your partner can insert a finger or a sex toy into your vagina and press firmly against the front wall. Use a come hither motion with your fingers or toy, pressing firmly against the front wall of your vagina. You may feel a slight roughness under your fingertips as you rub this area. Experiment with different angles and pressure until you find what feels best for you. Many people report that they feel an intense need to urinate when their G-Spot is stimulated. This is normal and should not be cause for concern. If you are using a toy, make sure it has a flared base so that it does not get lost inside your body
G-Spot orgasms are often described as being deeper and more intense than other types of orgasms. They can also be accompanied by involuntary muscle contractions in the legs, pelvis, and lower abdomen. To increase your chances of having a G-Spot orgasm, try these tips:
- use plenty of lubricant;
- experiment with different strokes and speeds;
- focus on relaxation;
- build up slowly to peak intensity;
- combine stimulation with other types of stimulation (such as clitoral or anal).
A-spot Stimulation
The A-spot and G-spot are both located on the front wall of the vagina. However, the A-spot is much deeper than the G-spot, and the stimulation of this area usually causes different sensations.
Unlike other erogenous zones, such as the G-spot or clitoris, A-spot stimulation does not usually cause a direct orgasm. Instead, it produces pleasurable sensations that make it easier for a person to reach orgasm through other types of stimulation.
In the study, two-thirds of women who experienced vaginal dryness or pain during intercourse found that stimulating the A-spot improved their experience.
The A-spot may also help a woman reach orgasm, but its primary use seems to be as a tool for foreplay. It can quickly produce significant lubrication, making other forms of penetration more pleasurable. For some women, stimulating this spot may produce more rapid results. In the 1997 study that first popularised the spot, for example, 15% of women reached orgasm almost immediately following A-spot stimulation.
The A-spot is located deep inside the vagina. For most women, it is several inches deep. Therefore, this area can be difficult to reach with a finger, and reaching it through intercourse requires a woman to be able to shift positions to find the right spot.
These tips may help people find the A-spot:
- Use a well-lubricated sex toy, such as a dildo, to apply pressure to the spot. Focus on stimulating the area deep at the top of the vagina, on the front wall, just under or next to the cervix.
- Try stimulating the spot anally. People who enjoy anal penetration or who want to try it may find that putting pressure on the front wall of the rectum, several inches in, also stimulates the A-spot.
- Focus on applying pressure, not vibrations, to the spot. Pushing on the spot while offering other stimulation, such as clitoral stimulation during oral sex, may prove highly pleasurable. Some people find that rubbing the spot in small, pressured circles helps.
The Best Positions to Achieve Orgasms.
The Sitting Position.
One of the best positions to achieve orgasms for persons with a spinal cord injury is the sitting position.
This position allows you to control the depth and angle of penetration. It also gives easy access to the clitoris, which can be stimulated with fingers, a vibrator, or both.
To get into this position, the person with the spinal cord injury should sit on the edge of a bed or chair, with their legs spread apart. Their partner should then straddle them, facing them. This position can be modified by having the person with the spinal cord injury lean back against a wall or headboard for support.
The Spooning Position.
The spooning position is a great position for people with spinal cord injuries because it provides a lot of support and stability. This position also allows for deep penetration, which can lead to more intense orgasms.
To get into the spooning position, the person with the spinal cord injury should lie on their side, with their partner behind them. The partner can then wrap their arms around the waist of the person with the spinal cord injury and enter them from behind. This position can be adjusted depending on what feels comfortable for both partners. For example, if the person with the spinal cord injury wants more clitoral stimulation, they can put a pillow under their hips to raise them up.
This position is great because it allows both partners to feel close to each other and experience intimacy while still providing enough support for the person with the spinal cord injury. It also gives the partner behind plenty of control over the depth and speed of penetration, which means they can adjust it to what feels best for their partner.
The Squatting Position.
The squatting position is a great way to achieve orgasms because it allows for deep penetration. To do this position, the person with the spinal cord injury should lie on their back and the receiver squats over them allowing for penetration
This position is ideal for people with a spinal cord injury because it doesn’t require much movement. It’s also a great position for people who want to be able to control the depth of penetration.
Anal Sex
Anal sex to stimulates the A-spot. Positions that allow the penetrated partner to control sensations can reduce pain and make it easier to access the A-spot. Engaging in anal sex with the woman on top, either facing toward or away from their partner, may offer good access.
Sex From Behind
Have sex from behind, with the woman lying down or bent over an item of furniture. The penetrative partner should be higher than the woman to increase stimulation of the front wall of the vagina and stimulate the A-spot.
Combining Stimulation Techniques
As we’ve seen, there are many different ways to stimulate the various genital erogenous zones that can lead to orgasm. And while some people may find that they can orgasm from stimulation of just one area, others may need a combination of stimulations to get there. There is no correct way to combine stimulations, so it’s important to experiment and find out what works for you.
One popular combination is clitoral and vaginal stimulation. This can be done with your fingers, using a vibrator on your clitoris while simultaneously insert another vibrator or dildo into your vagina. Or you could use a vibrating cock ring which will provide clitoral stimulation while you are being penetrated.
Another common combination is anal and vaginal stimulation. Again, this can be done with your fingers or with toys. Many people enjoy the added sensation of having something in their anus while they are being penetrated vaginally. There are endless possibilities when it comes to combining stimulations, so get creative and have fun exploring what gets you off!
Conclusion
Achieving orgasms may seem like a daunting task for someone with a spinal cord injury, but it is definitely possible. There are many different ways to stimulate the various erogenous zones, and with a little experimentation, anyone can find what works best for them. In addition to the obvious pleasure benefits of orgasms, they also have many health benefits, so it’s definitely worth taking the time to figure out how to achieve them.
